"Wait for the boy who will drop everything for you at any time of the day just to see you, whether it be the best or worst circumstances. Wait for the boy that will make an ordinary moment seem magical. Wait for the boy that you can't help but smile when you see, and when he smiles you know he needs you. Wait for the boy who will be your best friend, the one who wants to show you off to the world even in your sweats and with no makeup on just because...but most of all, wait for the boy who will put you in the center of the universe because he's obviously in the center of yours..."
That, my friends, is a big fat honkin' bunch of baloney. Romanticized bull without the slightest hint of actual thought behind it. Consider for a moment how selfish and childish that sounds.
"Wait for the boy who will drop everything for you at any time of the day just to see you, whether it be the best or worst circumstances."
The fact of the matter is, people are people. There are going to be times when a guy is going to want to be around people besides you. This doesn't mean he doesn't like you, it doesn't even mean that he's not in love with you. All that this means is that he has friends, relatives, and other such people in his life who are not you, and from time to time he likes to see them, too. In fact, if you're dating the guy at all, then he's probably not a huge loser and likely has a job (assuming he's not still in school). Would you expect him to risk getting fired by cutting out on work, just because you aren't happy about the slightest thing? If he is still in school, are you going to make him cut class because you can't make yourself happy for a lousy hour and a half? If you really require that kind of affection, get a dog.
"Wait for the boy that will make an ordinary moment seem magical."
You know what? There are times when I don't much feel like talking. Sometimes, I don't feel like trying to be funny. Sometimes, I just want to sit there and not have to cater to your every whim. Don't get me wrong, one of my favorite things ever is to take a girl out and make her feel like an absolute queen, but sometimes you're going to have to put up with a little bit of monotony and quite a few "ordinary moments." Guys do not exist for the sole purpose of fulfilling your every romantic fantasy, any more than you exist for the purpose of fulfilling our sexual fantasies.
"Wait for the boy that you can't help but smile when you see, and when he smiles you know he needs you."
So I guess that means that if you see your guy once and you don't smile at him, then you don't really love him? Man, that sucks. I'd hate to be the boyfriend of the girl who actually believes that line.
Also, why do you want to be needed? Do you have any idea how draining it is to be needed? This is why girls don't date needy guys; if a guy calls too many times in the first few weeks of a relationship, the girl stops calling back because they think he's "creepy" or "too aggresive." No, he's not. He's just being that very guy that you girls seem to think you want, but really don't.
"Wait for the boy who will be your best friend, the one who wants to show you off to the world even in your sweats and with no makeup on just because..."
Girls don't date their best friends. Girls' best friends are always "like a brother" or they don't "see him that way." Any girl who claims that her boyfriend is her best friend is only fooling themselves. Simply put, the kind of relationship you have with your boyfriend is substantially different than one you can have with a "friend." It's a completely different dynamic, and that's why we have a different word for it. Just because you're closest to that person doesn't mean they're your best friend.
The whole make-up and sweats thing... when are girls going to wake up and realize that pretty much every guy EVER is going to find you so much more attractive when you're not wearing make-up, when your hair is just pulled back or simply left down, and when you're just wearing whatever clothes make you feel the most comfortable. However, even though girls seem to think they want a guy like this, I've only met one girl in my lifetime who actually listened to me when I said, "You know, you really don't need the make-up." Instead, most of them freak out and can't believe I would suggest something so audacious as allowing your face to breath the clean air.
"but most of all, wait for the boy who will put you in the center of the universe because he's obviously in the center of yours..."
No. No, no, no. That is something that should be completely reserved for marriage. This sort of co-centric co-dependent relationship in a pre-marriage situation only leads to your friends disliking your significant other, resenting you for ignoring them, and just developing a feeling of bitterness towards you as a couple. When this happens, when you adopt this mentality, you're telling everybody around you that they're only important to you when you're not dating somebody. It makes your friends feel like your back-up, your "contingency plan" for when your significant other is busy. Good luck getting those same friends to invite you to stuff when you've broken up with your boyfriend for not smiling at you.
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There may be a somewhat bitter tone to this post, but I should say that I'm not writing it out of a spirit of resentment. Things like this just rub me the wrong way. We live in a real world, and we need to stop pretending that we're each living our own personal fairy tale. Eventually, everyone around you is going to fail you.
Listening to: Layla by Eric Clapton
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